Writing on a weekly basis requires no small amount of inspiration from all corners of this life that I walk. This week’s newsletter, a stark take on the very real economic implications of both demographics and inequality, two subjects I marry for the first time, was inspired by two different events that took place this past weekend and one from long ago.
At dinner on Saturday night, I found myself captivated by a dear friend’s recounting of a run-in he’d had with a client. To keep things appropriately anonymous, let’s just say my friend has been in the business of catering to the wealthiest of the wealthy for many years. And to be clear, he has done so with supreme aplomb and integrity, much to his clients’ approval.
But something has changed over the past few years, he shared. It would seem his clients have lost their capacity for restraint, their etiquette moorings. Some, not all, of course, of the uber-wealthy have decided that their wealth empowers them to occupy a different sphere, to breathe rarified air, and to mock, well, the rest of us, including those who cater to their every whim, including my friend in his professional capacity. Profanity is discharged as any other weapon and petulance has become the norm.
How sad that it’s come to this. Those were the last words that crossed my mind as I laid my head on my pillow late Saturday night.
But then, tomorrow is another day. At least that’s what I’d hoped.
On Sunday, I indulged myself the best way I know how, by tucking into Peggy Noonan’s weekend column. Her writing is as good as it gets. The unflinching light she casts on subjects we must read about leaves me in awe week and week out. And then there was America Needs More Gentlemen. With a sad rush, I was transported back to Saturday night.
Noonan writes of what we’ve all begun to wake to in this era of social media that’s not only helped rob our youth of their innocence, which we carry on about endlessly, but our men of their decorum and self-control. Read the column if you have not already and partake of Noonan’s observations which will make you long for what’s been lost along the way. But be graced here by the best of what we can be.
As Noonan wrote splendidly, “A gentleman is good to women because he has his own dignity and sees theirs. He takes opportunities to show them respect. He is not pushy, manipulative, belittling. He stands with them not because they are weak but because they deserve friendship.” Even better, she notes that there are plenty of definitions of gentlemen to be found on the internet. So plenty of young men out there want to know, which is a great place to begin to find our way back.
The long-ago episode, those who have read Fed Up will know, was a lunch, a celebratory birthday lunch with the man I once advised, Richard Fisher. At the time, riots were burning in Athens’ streets. As the coffee was being cleared, I asked Richard what his greatest fears were for our country’s future. His answer has been with me ever since — that those riots so far away would take place one day on our own streets, that social unrest was coming home to roost if something didn’t give.
Entitled and crude, a vile combination if there ever was one. And yet, in so many ways, on so many levels, that’s what it’s come to as the divide between the have’s and have not’s widens and our nation’s Boomers age in a graceless age. We will recover our collective dignity if we know what’s best for our country. Our economy and more importantly, our very souls depend on it.
With that, I will leave you with this week’s installment, SOCCER MONSTERS: The Lamborghini in the Carpool Lane.
With hopes that you hold the door open or have it held open for you, and wishing you well,
PS. The following Bloomberg column made me laugh as I hadn’t in years, at least on the subject of central banking. A Twitter follower was kind enough to send it to me and I can’t help myself. I simply must pay the joviality forward. So please enjoy, Your Psychiatrist Will See You Now, Mr. Central Banker.
It will act as a lovely offset to this week’s sobering newsletter.
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